I'm really weak emotionally.

I'm really weak emotionally. Not that lagi akong umiiyak or anything but rather, sinabihan ako ng jowa ko na hindi daw ako empathetic. I have a hard time understanding other people's feelings kapag hindi backed by reasoning. For example: - cheating. I understand bakit sad, depressed, etc yung tao na nagcheat yung partner nila. I understand it kasi duh cheating yan teh in a committed relationship. Pero Hindi ko gets yung parang: - "I feel so bad kasi hindi ako yung pinakamalaking contribution sa project but at the same time lagi lang ako nag procrastinate kasi I find it hard to start the project pero I feel bad ha na hindi ako yung pinakamalaking ambag" like what??? Genuinely what? Ewan ko ba. That second example is my bf. And sinabihan nya ako na Hindi daw ako empathetic sakanya. Paano ba Yun pls give some advice. Hindi ko talaga ma gets eh.