Setting boundaries
It's weird. How people can just disrespect you and crossed the boundaries you're trying to set just because they think they still have the power over you. Quick back story. I had a guy friend that I got really close to at one point—to the extent that we would hang out just the two of us. I confessed to him last Dexember of 2024, but he turned me down in the most painful way—he told me I meant nothing to him. For a whole year, we were going out. Yet, I meant nothing? Kahit kaibigan lang? After that, naging distant ako. I was deeply hurt sa sinabi nya. I tried to move on and succeeded. I met someone (a now ex, lol) and really spent my time distancing sa mga tao sa past ko as a respect sa current rs ko non. After my ex and I broke up, the guy friend and I, reconnected. No ill intentions on my part bc I believed we can still rebuild the friendship we used to have. Pero I didn't know na sa loob ng isang taon mahigit, marami palang mababago. Recently, he invited me to hang out. Katulad ng dati—just the two of us. I said okay and he asked me if I wanted some pasta at lulutuan daw nya ko. I said sure kasi who would say no sa pasta, right? And then he said to me, he has a girlfriend. I'm like, okay now what? Napaisip ako. If iisipin ko ang POV ng gf nya, magiging masaya ba ko to know na he's gonna spend some time with someone from his past na nagkagusto sa kanya? I felt weird. Kasi I knew exactly yung feeling na yon. After that, sinabi ko sa kanya na hindi na kami pwedeng mag-hang out na kaming dalawa lang, kasi may boundaries na hindi namin dapat tawirin. He called me stubborn and selfish kasi hindi na ako pumayag makipagkita sa kanya. His reason? "I just wanted to meet my pretty sweet friend in distress and catch up abt life."<- This. Naisip ko, ganon ba ko ka-gullible before na he would think na papayag ako mag meet kami despite knowing na may gf sya? Kasi sino bang matinong lalaki na may gf ang makikipag meet sa ibang babae tapos sasabihan kang selfish at stubborn pag binawi mo na yung meet up plan? I thought na he's smarter than me. Hindi pala. I never thought na magiging ganon tingin sakin nung taong yon. Wala raw sya pake sa boundaries ko. Lol. Naiinis ako. Pinagsisihan kong I tried to reconnect with him. Dapat talaga yung mga taong nanakit sayo, di na uli tinatanggap e.