First post

Is it bad luck if my first post is kind of a rant? Idk... Earlier i got a BHcg test (100% accurate pregnancy test using the 🩸) because i missed my period for 2 months now. PTs all came negative as well, so I opted for BHCG to rule out any underlying health concerns. Test came back negative too. So ofc I'm worried na. Im pushing 30 and we can have all sorts of problems sa reproductive system. My mom was a nurse so i shared this with her. Showed her my BHcg and also confided im 2 months late. Instead of being worried i might have PCOS or anything else she began to manipulate my concern (as she always did) & tell me veiled jabs about having seggs outside of marriage (me and my bf are 28 na, adults). I felt icky af because i came to her in good faith and worrying about my health. I also wanted to ask her to come with me to the OB as support. Not anymore. It wasn't only hurtful, but it felt $lut-shaming-ish? If i wanted comments about my personal life i would have opened a topic about it. What i was asking for is advice on what to do like doctor's check up and whatnot, not judgement. To add insult to injury she called this a "pregnancy scare" (I wasnt scared, me and my bf were ready to take responsibility) because God was sending a message daw that my life isn't on track and i should get married na asap if i plan on doing "it" more. Again, I needed advice from my MOM because of a health issue. I just didnt expect this from a woman that had her first child at 16. I get she might be concerned because of that, but I'm not a minor nor a teenager. I'm not scared of responsibility but i AM scared for my health. I just wished the first thing she did was hug me and show concern rather than be snarky and self-righteous. Anyways, that's what keeps me up 'til 3AM today. Hope you guys have better, more loving moms. 💔