🕸️ People Pleasing

People pleasing used to feel like my comfort zone. I thought I was just being kind, just trying to keep everyone happy. But over time, it felt like I was slowly vanishing. I remember agreeing to things I didn’t want, laughing when I wasn’t okay, and staying silent just to avoid tension. I would leave conversations feeling small, like I had given tiny pieces of myself away without anyone noticing. There were days I said sorry even when I knew I wasn’t wrong, just to keep someone close. I’ve twisted myself into versions I thought others would like more, hoping they’d see me as enough. I remember one time in high school when I let someone talk over me again and again, and I just smiled through it because I didn’t want to seem difficult. But deep down, it stung. I started to wonder if being loved always had to come at the cost of myself. Lately, I’ve been trying to choose me, even when it’s uncomfortable. Saying no when I need rest. Admitting when something hurts. Reminding myself that real love doesn’t ask me to shrink. I can still be soft without losing my shape. I can be kind and still protect my boundaries. And the right people, the ones who truly see me, will never need me to disappear to stay. C: #YourNeedsMatterToo

• Boundaries
• Identity
• Healing